Have you ever noticed how many stories you make up during a day? I’m sure there are hundreds.
Today, I want for us to explore what’s BEHIND the stories we tell.
We tell ourselves stories when things are going well, and we tell ourselves stories when things are not going well.
We also tell ourselves stories when we’re in the midst of a conversation with someone, when we’re walking, when we’re dancing, when we’re eating and when we’re sleeping. These stories are usually going on inside of our head AND they are happening ALL the time!
Are you in, or observing the story?
I want you to begin to begin to pay attention to when are you ‘in’ the story, and, when you are ‘observing’ the story. This is REALLY important! Why? Because, when we’re in the story, we often don’t realize the impact it has on the choices we are making, as well as how we act, and react with the people in our world. When we are observing the story, it’s like watching a movie. There is some detachment, and it creates an invitation for different choices to be made.
Stories are something that we are always making up. That’s the role of our intellect. When it’s not analyzing a situation, performing complex calculations and making milli second decisions it’s creating stories.
Stories happen when:
- We are in a conversation and it’s not going our way, and we wonder… “why?”
- We’re in a conversation and it is going our way…and, we wonder…”why?”
- Someone doesn’t do/act/say something we are expecting
- We recall an event, conversation and experience.
I’m curious, what types of stories do you make up? Are they lavish and extravagant adventures? Slight enhancements of your life? Fantasies? Are they like seeds being planted and taking root to become something that we call truth.
What are the stories that you create?
What purpose do they have?
What have been the results of your stories?
What story are you making up right now????
The key here is asking the question “Am I willing to verify my story?” If you’ve worked with me, you heard me say “We create brilliant, intelligent, strategies when it comes to moving through our world.” Our stories are a part of that.
When you catch yourself telling a story, you are now in a powerful place. You now have the power of choice. You can observe and see where it goes, stop it, and you also have an opportunity to see if you are willing to test it out. It can be as simple as saying…”Hey, based on what I heard, saw, experienced I made up a story that xxx.” Now that can be the start of an enlightening conversation.
Until the next time!