This article, 6 1/2 things you should stop expecting from others, came into my inbox. I was curious, so I read it. What struck me, as I was taking it all in, was the extreme agitation in my body. I get it, I really do AND what I realize is, it’s not about stopping my expectations it’s about OWNING and DECLARING my expectations.
Often we have expectations of others and we don’t declare them out loud. They are hidden, sometimes even from ourselves and often emerge when the outcome we expected does not happen. This is what in the WEL-Systems® body of knowledge we call a green dot moment. We discover, hey there was an expectation there. Now, in my experience there are two paths, keep the expectation hidden and react with righteous indignation, or own my discovery, and then if the impulse is there, share with the other person what is going on inside of me.
Every time I chose to own, declare and engage in a conversation with someone about my expectation it took our connection to a whole new level. Not to mention I got to discover something new about ME.
What are the expectations you hold for others, and if you stop to engage, what does it mean around the rules you hold for yourSelf?
Until the next time!