It is widely known that presenting and public speaking is the number one fear, with 75% of the population dreading it more than death. What is it about speaking in front of a group of people that brings this on? In my years of coaching I know it’s never about what it’s about. I know it’s not about the fear; it’s about the shame, embarrassment or humiliation associated with presenting and speaking in any public forum.
In my recent experiences, and conversations, I have discovered that most people can trace their ‘fear’ back to an incident that happened in their early childhood. They were embarrassed or humiliated at school, or at home. That led to a fear of feeling the same way again, which later shifted the focus on the fear and not the underlying root cause. I often say fear is the rock star, it’s what we all focus on, however, if we focus on what lies beneath the fear, we have the potential to move beyond it.
Anxiety, presenting as sweaty palms or forehead, constriction in the chest, heat moving through your body, and paralysis presenting as your mind going blank, dry mouth, lump in your throat and or the inability to move, are all part of the sensations you may feel, even if you are only considering having to speak publicly.
These reactions in the body trigger the thought process of no way..no how.. Run… It’s classic fight or flight.
Taking my experiences into account I have created the program, ‘Overcoming the Fear of Public Speaking‘. In this program experience you have an opportunity to move through and beyond your fear. The intention is for you to know you can engage from a very different internal space.
This is not a skills course, it’s a program experience where we are going to dive into to the internal landscape so:
- you can engage the sensations you feel, and
- come to know what you feel are intelligent responses to a trigger put in place a long time ago.
We will take a look at the thought processes associated with the feelings and re-frame them within a new context, and we will look at who you have the potential to reveal to the world from this new place.
Fear is like the first line defence. It’s what we have learned to trust as a way to stay safe…unfortunately, it can also limit our potential.
Life has SO much more to offer once we discover we have the capacity to move through fear, unearth what we didn’t know we didn’t know, and stand in a new place.
Until the next time!