Comments on: Familiarity http://iofthestormcoaching.com/2009/08/25/familiarity/ Fri, 17 Feb 2012 13:24:03 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Naomi Irons http://iofthestormcoaching.com/2009/08/25/familiarity/#comment-50 Naomi Irons Tue, 25 Aug 2009 15:47:15 +0000 http://ljweiss.wordpress.com/?p=195#comment-50 People showing up or leaving in my life simply becomes a metaphor if my life is all about me. What I am noticing for myself is how strong the metaphor is! I can make up the story about another or I can notice they are not on my holodeck and move on to the next experience! All I need to do is show up for myself and create the space-others are going to do what they need to do and I know there is great genius. I am no longer interested in analyzing their genius because again I create the story. People showing up or leaving in my life simply becomes a metaphor if my life is all about me. What I am noticing for myself is how strong the metaphor is! I can make up the story about another or I can notice they are not on my holodeck and move on to the next experience!
All I need to do is show up for myself and create the space-others are going to do what they need to do and I know there is great genius. I am no longer interested in analyzing their genius because again I create the story.

]]> By: marie smith http://iofthestormcoaching.com/2009/08/25/familiarity/#comment-49 marie smith Tue, 25 Aug 2009 15:37:58 +0000 http://ljweiss.wordpress.com/?p=195#comment-49 Hi Lisa, This blog was timely, as well as other blogs I read this week...my son is leaving to study in Finland this Friday. It is evidence for me, of the final choice he made for himself to study for a semester rather than the whole year. Lots of rules because it is policy once he signed the contract he must go for the full year - because another international student takes his spot at my son's university. It just didn't work for him to go the full year and he said so. I am witnessing this summer how powerful it is for my son to know that he can change when it is not working for him. Not to blow it off, rather, stand tall in who he is and tell his own truth. Thanks LIsa for the reminder of how expansive the world becomes if the parent speaks and knows their own truth - allowing space for their offspring to have space for themselves and stay in their own truth!!! M:) Hi Lisa,

This blog was timely, as well as other blogs I read this week…my son is leaving to study in Finland this Friday. It is evidence for me, of the final choice he made for himself to study for a semester rather than the whole year. Lots of rules because it is policy once he signed the contract he must go for the full year – because another international student takes his spot at my son’s university. It just didn’t work for him to go the full year and he said so. I am witnessing this summer how powerful it is for my son to know that he can change when it is not working for him. Not to blow it off, rather, stand tall in who he is and tell his own truth. Thanks LIsa for the reminder of how expansive the world becomes if the parent speaks and knows their own truth – allowing space for their offspring to have space for themselves and stay in their own truth!!!
M:)

]]> By: sarah http://iofthestormcoaching.com/2009/08/25/familiarity/#comment-48 sarah Tue, 25 Aug 2009 14:41:25 +0000 http://ljweiss.wordpress.com/?p=195#comment-48 Relationships.... "working" and "not working" or serving and not serving.... "if i cannot show up people will leave becuase they cannot connect to what they are seeking" this has been buzzing in me the last couple days in regards to romantic relationships.... notions of cheating... notions of parting different ways...what sustaining relationships are...and yet thats all nominalizations of your experience with yourself in all of it around you. and its true...if you can't show up fully (and sometimes our old beliefs come with some movement to move and shift for this to happen)....the connection to self withers if you allow it too...if you don't know that you are everything. I beleive he did want me to show up fully....but the process that i moved through and what he needed to move through was not being looked at for what it was.....our own...instead it was a bunch of stories with restlessness of the rules. and yet it was all perfect. Relationships…. “working” and “not working” or serving and not serving….

“if i cannot show up people will leave becuase they cannot connect to what they are seeking”

this has been buzzing in me the last couple days in regards to romantic relationships…. notions of cheating… notions of parting different ways…what sustaining relationships are…and yet thats all nominalizations of your experience with yourself in all of it around you.

and its true…if you can’t show up fully (and sometimes our old beliefs come with some movement to move and shift for this to happen)….the connection to self withers if you allow it too…if you don’t know that you are everything.

I beleive he did want me to show up fully….but the process that i moved through and what he needed to move through was not being looked at for what it was…..our own…instead it was a bunch of stories with restlessness of the rules. and yet it was all perfect.

]]> By: ljweiss http://iofthestormcoaching.com/2009/08/25/familiarity/#comment-47 ljweiss Tue, 25 Aug 2009 14:36:06 +0000 http://ljweiss.wordpress.com/?p=195#comment-47 Oh my Very DEAR friend. THANK YOU. Your words "It is not always about the physicality of being abandoned." is shouting out at me... YES it's not the physical abandonment it is the abandonment of SELF which of course creates no space. The familiarity of not knowing how to show up because our parents didn't know what they didn't know about showing up for their own lives. You know the saying stand up and be counted... I now say Show Up and Be Seen. The familiarity of it's easier not to bee seen and heard to not have my voice be heard is all based on fear, which is not real, just a nominalization attached to a sensation locked in so long ago. Thank you! Oh my Very DEAR friend. THANK YOU. Your words “It is not always about the physicality of being abandoned.” is shouting out at me… YES it’s not the physical abandonment it is the abandonment of SELF which of course creates no space. The familiarity of not knowing how to show up because our parents didn’t know what they didn’t know about showing up for their own lives. You know the saying stand up and be counted… I now say Show Up and Be Seen. The familiarity of it’s easier not to bee seen and heard to not have my voice be heard is all based on fear, which is not real, just a nominalization attached to a sensation locked in so long ago.
Thank you!

]]> By: Naomi Irons http://iofthestormcoaching.com/2009/08/25/familiarity/#comment-46 Naomi Irons Tue, 25 Aug 2009 14:18:58 +0000 http://ljweiss.wordpress.com/?p=195#comment-46 The fire has been moving in me ALL morning as well! Thank you for fueling the fire that lies deep within me. A fire that has been smoldering for a long time waiting for my breath to ignite it. As I wrote to the G10 this morning about the fear of being left as a child, my children wouldn't let me out of their sight. After reading your words I have been able to see that I was at a choice point- I could either allow the fire make me turn in on myself and create the sense of not 'showing up' in my life OR let it move and show up for my own life becoming the living example for my children. I created the space this morning to let it move and my children claimed their space knowing I was 'there'. It is not always about the physicality of being abandoned. Were our parents even able to show up for themselves and create the safety for us to to show up Authentically? I ask this question for myself because as I 'show up' for myself in my own life (in ALL aspects now) it is creating a lot of information that is OLD. I am claiming my fire so it no longer claims me when I stand in front of a group of people and wonder if I am going to be left again. If I cannot show up people will leave because they cannot connect to what they are seeking. I know I am rambling but I am gaining more clarity. Thank you my dear friend for 'showing up' and creating the space for me to see myself. The fire has been moving in me ALL morning as well! Thank you for fueling the fire that lies deep within me. A fire that has been smoldering for a long time waiting for my breath to ignite it. As I wrote to the G10 this morning about the fear of being left as a child, my children wouldn’t let me out of their sight. After reading your words I have been able to see that I was at a choice point- I could either allow the fire make me turn in on myself and create the sense of not ‘showing up’ in my life OR let it move and show up for my own life becoming the living example for my children. I created the space this morning to let it move and my children claimed their space knowing I was ‘there’.
It is not always about the physicality of being abandoned. Were our parents even able to show up for themselves and create the safety for us to to show up Authentically? I ask this question for myself because as I ‘show up’ for myself in my own life (in ALL aspects now) it is creating a lot of information that is OLD. I am claiming my fire so it no longer claims me when I stand in front of a group of people and wonder if I am going to be left again. If I cannot show up people will leave because they cannot connect to what they are seeking. I know I am rambling but I am gaining more clarity.
Thank you my dear friend for ‘showing up’ and creating the space for me to see myself.

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